Lover's Curse - Jasmin Hope

A written project of honesty, rawness, and truth, by Jasmin Hope.

Affection :

I’m very affectionate, I love to cuddle, be your safe space, let you know nonverbally I’m one that can nurture your existence. But there are boundaries with this, that I had to create, that I had to bring about with this affectionate gift I was given.

It can be so soft and so warm to the point you’ll want to be inside of my skin with me, but I won’t allow that unless we are exclusively seeing one another. 

I’m not saying you have to pay for the pussy, but I’m saying you have to respect your way through my affection, if you want to keep it around you.

I didn’t come here for sex, or anything materialistic. I came to spend time with you, to be affectionate with you, to show you who I am, to share myself with you; that’s what I came here for.

Some have a hard time grasping this, and I over stand the urges of wanting to get it over with. I’ve grown from that, I’ve left that behind, I don’t come into someone’s life that I’m attracted to, to have sex with; I want to share one another in any way we both can feel comfortable. 

Discernment & Detachment :

With this gift of affection, you must introduce the gift of discernment. Discerning whether someone is willing to grasp the idea of how you operate with yourself, and how your self love brings boundaries with others and yourself. When you spend time, and energy on building your self esteem, you have to discern who gets to share your gifts with you, who gets to experience the endless pleasure that comes with the affection you have to offer. But if safety and respect is not offered in return, you must bring about detachment. Detaching from their ideals, if they are opposing to yours, or else you would waste all the time and effort you spent building these boundaries. You may even become uncomfortable with yourself in the process, realizing you’ve lost trust in yourself. 

Acceptance :

Accept that you have been granted with these gifts, accept that you want to share them with another, that’s beautiful and very brave of you! But also accept when you have to use your discernment to protect yourself and accept that you must detach from those who do not recognize these are gifts that you’re willing to share with the boundaries you’ve created. If you do bend these boundaries, and you start to lose trust in yourself, come back to who you are. Come back to why you made the boundaries to begin with, and accept your reasoning once again. Accept that you’re still learning, still growing, and still have seasons and storms to weather through. Accept yourself again, in all parts you arrive to.

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